Not my Usual Post...

For those of you who actually take the time to read my blog, this is not my usual blog post.  I blog about my family, my kids and our lives.

This is not about my family.
This is not about our lives.

This IS my opinion, and it was brought on by the "Disneyland Measles Outbreak".
But BEFORE I give you my opinion, here are some disclaimers.

-This is my opinion.
-This is not based on any fact.  What comes out of my mouth could have been read somewhere, learned from my sister's, boyfriend's aunt's neighbor, remembered from a class or a conversation, whatever... but it is my perspective and that is all that matters... to me:)
-You do not have to agree with me or disagree with me, I do not want your comments either way.  I HATE discussing, arguing, persuading.  I am writing this blog for me and me alone, because the truth is I hardly ever voice my opinions, and today... I just really wanted to.  Plain and simple... don't read into it.
-My writing is horrible... I know this.  I rely on my computer's spelling knowledge and my punctuation is how I think, not how it should be. :)

With that being said, here it goes...

The problems with the world today are because of people who are one (or more) of the following:
1.  Selfish
2.  Lazy
3.  A blamer
4.  An exceptionist  (this is my own made up word)
5.  Extremists

So, as I was saying earlier, this was all brought on by the disneyland measles outbreak.   I, like many other people are reading all the posts on Facebook about the outbreak.  When I read the first article, I was annoyed, thinking "you stupid people who do not vaccinate are stupid! (very profound, I know:)  But then, after reading a few other articles I realized I wanted to know the facts, because the facts were different in almost every article I read.  My thought process was simple, If I could see how many people caught the disease with the ratio of how many were vaccinated vs. not vaccinated then I would understand the situation better and I could make my opinion based off of that knowledge.  So, I read some more... some "pro vaccination" and some "anti vaccination" and then I realized something; the pros just stated fact after fact of crap that supported their cause and the anti's just stated fact after fact that supported their cause.  Half of the facts completely contradicted with each other.  It was almost comical how they used the same studies to support opposing views.  The only way I would be able to get to the bottom of it would be to read the actual studies myself, and although I have a college degree, I have tried reading scientific studies before, and their jargon and numbers just do not make sense to me. So, my fact finding was over.

The bottom line...  I have my opinion.  It is based off of my belief and my gut feeling.  But now that I KNOW I will never know all the science behind my decision (whether it is right or wrong) it is my decision and I am not going to try and persuade the world to my side.  I am not going to tell everybody that does not believe my decision is the right one that they are wrong and horrible people. I am not going to argue that my way is the right way and the only way.  I am just going to carry on with my life and continue to do what is best for my family and for me.

BUT... as I came to this conclusion, I started to think about all my opinions and beliefs.  I started thinking about blacks vs. cops, gays vs. straights, religion vs. science, republicans vs. democrats, women's rights vs. unborn baby rights and everything else.  And with each and every one of these examples it all boils down to the same thing for me.

I have opinions about each and every single one of the examples above.  I came to my opinions all by myself.  I take part of my opinion from my faith and my life experience with these things.  I also take bits and pieces of my opinions from reading and from other people's opinions.

 And in my opinion, I blame the problems of the world with the 5 kinds of people listed above.  My list does not discriminate against a person's religion or the color of their skin.  It does not matter if they are gay or a republican... and it does not matter if they are smart or dumb, educated or not... what does matter is how they live their lives.

So now let me explain my list of people types that are putting this world in the crapper.
#1 Selfish people:  these are some of the worst.  They do not think about their neighbors, or the shop workers, they do not think about their classmates or other drivers on the road.  They don't even think about their friends or family.  They only think about what is good for them, what they want and what will help them to exceed, no matter the consequences of what happens around them.  Just think for a moment how wonderful this world would be if everyone in this world more often than not thought about those around them and how their decisions would affect them and then base their decisions on that.  It is even hard to imagine because selfishness is the number 1 problem in this world today.

#2  Lazy People:  I am not talking about people who have lazy moments.  We are all entitled to a day of laziness every once in a while.  When Lazy becomes a title, is when lazy is your life.  When you only eat out because it is too hard to make dinner, when you have a messy house because you do not want to take the time to clean it, when you only ever do the bare minimums at your job, when you would rather sit on the couch and watch your shows rather than go outside and play with your kids.  Actually, lets generalize this even more... when you parent from the couch.  You know the people,  there are no exceptions to lazy, either you are lazy or you aren't.  I just wish lazy people were so lazy that they wouldn't want to breed and make more lazy people.  Harsh... yes, but necessary!

#3  Blamers:  These are the people who do everything right.  They never make a mistake that normal people would (which they then use to learn and grow from).  Because whenever something is less than good, they start with the blame game.  They blame their dog for being sick to excuse their tardiness.  They blame their boss for having unreasonable expectations, when they did not do their job right.  And if something does go right, they still feel the need to blame people.  "It went right, but I did not get any help from so-and-so"  Everyone knows this person.  These people will never-ever-never-ever take accountability for losing their job, or not being able to find a new job.  It is never their fault they can't drive when their license is taken away for excessive speeding tickets.  Because obviously it is the cop's fault who pull them over.  Because ALL cops are jerks and they let the power go to their head:)  Oh yeah... those people!

#4  Exceptionists:  My wonderful made up word to describe the people who EXPECT to be the exception to all rules, laws, limits, etc.  Now, this is one of the most tricky groups of people.  Because, even I feel there needs to be exceptions to many things.  But the main difference between me and the exceptionist is that I feel there needs to be exceptions made for others, when I hear of things that are not fair.  For example, the single mother who makes it to the dr. appointment for her sick child 5 minutes too late, when you know she took off the day to take her sick child and she has no one else to help her.  She could use and exception and hopefully the Dr. will still work her into his schedule.  But I do not expect the Dr. to bend over backwards for me, a stay at home mother, who has a vehicle to drive and a husband to support her when I just 'forget'.  Yes, I could make an excuse, (maybe multiple)but do I need one?  How hard would it be for me to take responsibility that I was late for an appointment?  It really bothers me when I hear a customer/worker conversation and I hear these customer 'exceptionists' who argue with these poor workers who have been given a set of guidelines to follow and these customers EXPECT to be an exception.  By all means, tell them why you lost your receipt and have already worn the clothes and see what they can do.  But do not expect them to bend over backwards for you to give you a full refund, when you do not deserve one!!!!

#5  Extremists:  The people with a trillion bumper stickers on their car.  These people are not okay with freedom.  They think their way is the only way, and they hate and discriminate against anyone who does not feel the same way.  They will argue and yell and scream until they are blue in the face, and if you still disagree they start name calling.  They feel you are uneducated, small minded, and many other things, that I will not mention, but none of them nice.  The funny thing is that their are usually extremists on both sides of every argument.  But in my opinion all extremists do are cause harm.  They go too far,  they get so stuck on their agenda that they don't even try to see the others point of view.  And the main problem with that is that they become so full of hate for others who do not feel the same way... and we know what hate leads to.  Look at the past and the extremists who have done horrible things because hate was in their hearts even if they believed that their agenda was good and the only right way...  Here is where I am going to go into something that is a hot topic for extremists.  Gay Marriage.  That is right, I am going to give my opinion.  And how it relates to extremists.  By voicing my opinion, I am Not an extremist... this is only the 3rd time I have ever done so.  I have never argued or tried to persuade my point of view.  I am going to explain how I feel and why I feel that way.  So if you do not agree, that is ok.  I still want to be your friend, I still love you.  My opinion is heavily based on my religion.  I truly, 100% of my body, heart and spirit believe that marriage is a covenant between a man and a woman.  But hold your horses... just because that is my belief about marriage itself, does not mean I do not believe in equal rights, it does not mean that I think gay's should be treated unfairly or like they are less in anyway.  Because, plain and simple, they are people just like me.  They are human beings.  And MY God tells me to love my neighbor.  Not, love them only if they are just like me.  My God tells me to judge, only if I am without sin.  Well, let me be clear about that... I am a sinner, who tries to be good.  BACK TO THE POINT...  how does my opinion relate to extremists?  Because the one time I tried to voice my opinion in public, I get stopped at I believe that marriage is between a man and a woman and I get categorized.  I get told that I am small minded.  I get told that people like me are what is wrong with this world.  They do not want to hear that we can find a middle ground.  With my one sentence... I was classified as a gay hater, republican, conservative.  I HATE that this world has become a place of one extreme or another.   Let me have my opinion without being categorized.

So, if you are one of these people, chances are... I do not like you very much.  But get this, I will still be cordial to you.  I will still treat you like a human being.  I will not talk behind your back.  I will however try to keep my distance from you.  Because, I want what is best for my family.  I want my kids to grow up around good role models.  You, will eventually find your way out of my life because I will not try to keep a relationship with you.  But as you leave my life, I DO wish you the best.

Are there holes in my opinions where people can rip me apart...? Yes, do I care...? No.

I am done.

Sorry:(... I'm not sorry:)